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DARAMOLA OLAWALE

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Thou Art an Eagle
A farmer took his young son on a hike and they tramped through the meadows and woods.
They hiked through the pines and up over the hills.
They climbed the steep mountains and finally, high above the timber line, scaled the crags
and peaks they saw a giant eagle soaring overhead. They scanned the cliffs and finally
located the eagles nest. The boy climbed up the cliff to where the nest was located. He
reached into the nest, which rested on a ledge, and pulled out an egg, which he put inside
his shirt. Then he climbed carefully back down the cliff.
He and his father returned home, and the boy put the egg in a nest where a hen was
brooding over her eggs. By and by, when the eggs were hatched, each delivered a small
chick except the one from which a young eaglet was hatched. Months passed and the eaglet matured. After the eagle was full grown, a naturalist was driving down the highway out in the
country. As he drove by the farmer’s yard, he saw the giant eagle. He slammed on his
brakes, got out of the car, and went over to the fence. He could hardly believe his eyes.
He opened the gate, walked into the yard, and found the farmer. ‘Where did you get that
eagle?’ he asked.
The farmer said, ‘It’s a chicken.’ The man responded: ‘I am a naturalist. I know all about these
things, and I tell you that is an eagle. Furthermore, I’ll prove it.’ He picked up the eagle, put it
on his arm, and said, ‘Thou art an eagle-fly.’ The eagle hopped off his arm and began to
scratch in the dirt like the chickens. The farmer said, ‘I told you it was only a chicken.’
The naturalist asked for a ladder. He leaned it against the barn. Then he carried the eagle up
on top of the barn. He stood at the peak of the roof on the barn, placed the eagle on his
arm, and said, ‘Thou art an eagle-fly.’ The eagle swooped down into the yard below and
began scratching in the gravel. The farmer hollered up, ‘I told you it was a chicken.’
The man climbed down off the barn. He made an agreement with the farmer and the next
morning, long before sunrise, he picked up the eagle. He carried it through the woods and
over the meadows. He continued up into the hills and the pines, onward, upward, above
the timberline to the peaks and crags and pinnacles of the mountains. He arrived at the
mountaintop just before dawn.
As the first rays of the sun began to streak across the sky, he put the eagle on his arm.
The fresh, cool winds came through the valleys and trees below and swept up to the
cliff where the naturalist stood. The eagle breathed deeply. The first streaks of sunlight
caught his eye. He stretched his giant wings, almost six feet across. The naturalist said,
‘Thou art an eagle-fly.’
The eagle slowly lifted off the naturalist’s arm. It ascended into the sky. It soared higher and
higher and further and further.
It saw more in an instant than its companions had in an entire lifetime, and from that time
forth it was never again content to be a barnyard fowl.
Author – Vaughn J. Featherstone

DARAMOLA OLAWALE

•One of the most difficult things to deal with in life is regret.  Sometimes something will happen, and you will respond in the wrong way, and for a while thereafter you will wish you had done it differently.  But eventually, you accept the experience as a lesson learned and you move on with your life.

•This is hardly the worst kind of regret.  What could be worse?

•The chances you didn’t take.  The relationships you were afraid to nurture.  The decisions you waited too long to make.  The things you didn’t even try when you had the chance.  Those important words you left unspoken and deeds you left undone.

•The good news is, it’s not too late.  You are here breathing, which means you still have a chance to do what you might have done, and be what you might have been.  Right now you have an opportunity to write yourself a future free of regret.

What is an Apology?
An apology is a statement that has two key elements:
1. It shows your remorse over your actions.
2. It acknowledges the hurt that your actions have caused to someone else. We all need to learn how to apologise – after all, no one is perfect. We all make mistakes, and we all have the capability to hurt people through our behaviours and actions, whether these are intentional or not. It isn’t always easy to apologise, but it’s often the most effective way to restore trust and balance in a relationship, when you’ve done something wrong. Why Apologise? There are many reasons why you should make a sincere apology when you’ve hurt someone unnecessarily, or have made a mistake. First, an apology opens a dialogue between yourself and the other person. Your willingness to admit your mistake can give the other person the opportunity he needs to communicate with you, and start dealing with his feelings. When you apologise, you also acknowledge that you engaged in unacceptable behaviour. This helps you rebuild trust and re-establish your relationship with the other person. It also gives you a chance to discuss what is and isn’t acceptable. What’s more, when you admit that the situation was your fault, you restore dignity to the person you hurt. This can begin the healing process, and it can ensure that she doesn’t unjustly blame herself for what happened. Last, a sincere apology shows that you’re taking responsibility for your actions. This can strengthen your self-confidence, self-respect, and reputation. You’re also likely to feel a sense of relief when you come clean about your actions, and it’s one of the best ways to restore your integrity in the eyes of others. Consequences of not Apologising What are the consequences if you don’t apologise when you’ve made a mistake? First, you will damage your relationships with colleagues, clients, friends, or family. It can harm your reputation, limit your career opportunities, and lower your effectiveness – and others may not want to work with you. It also negatively affects your team when you don’t apologise. No one wants to work for a boss who can’t own up to his mistakes, and who doesn’t apologise for them. The animosity, tension, and pain that comes with this can create a toxic work environment. Why Apologies are Difficult With all these negative consequences, why do some people still refuse to apologise? First, apologies take courage. When you admit that you were wrong, it puts you in a vulnerable position, which can open you up to attack or blame. Some people struggle to show this courage. Alternatively, you may be so full of shame and embarrassment over your actions that you can’t bring yourself to face the other person. Or, you may be following the advice “never apologise, never explain.” It’s up to you if you want to be this arrogant, but, if you do, don’t expect to be seen as a wise or an inspiring leader. How to Apologise Appropriately In an article in the Journal of Psycho linguistic Research, psychologists Steven Scher and John Darley present a four-step framework that you can use when you make an apology. Let’s look at each step, below.

Step 1:
Express Remorse Every apology needs to start with two magic words: “I’m sorry,” or “I apologise.” This is essential, because these words express remorse over your actions. For example, you could say: “I’m sorry that I snapped at you yesterday. I feel embarrassed and ashamed by the way I acted.” Your words need to be sincere and authentic. Be honest with yourself, and with the other person, about why you want to apologize. Never make an apology when you have ulterior motives, or if you see it as a means to an end. Timeliness is also important here. Apologize as soon as you realize that you’ve wronged someone else.

Step 2:
Admit Responsibility Next, admit responsibility for your actions or behavior, and acknowledge what you did.Here, you need to empathize with the person you wronged, and demonstrate that you understand how you made her feel.Don’t make assumptions – instead, simply try to put yourself in that person’s shoes and imagine how she felt.For example: “I know that I hurt your feelings yesterday when I snapped at you. I’m sure this embarrassed you, especially since everyone else on the team was there. I was wrong to treat you like that.”

Step 3:
Make Amends When you make amends, you take action to make the situation right.

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